One Day Seminar: Therapy and the Unspoken
International Guest Speaker: Dr. Joyce Slochower (New York)
One Day Seminar
IN-PERSON
International Speaker
Dr Joyce Slochower
New York, Winnicott Scholar, Relational Psychoanalyst
Join us at the iconic Wharewaka on the beautiful Wellington waterfront. A rare opportunity to spend a full day with Dr Slochower (in person), exploring the powerful undercurrents of what’s left unsaid in therapy. Join us in person on the beautiful Wellington waterfront at the iconic Wharewaka
Thursday 19th February 2026
Open to all affiliated mental health professionals.
Therapy and the Unspoken (Overview)

International Guest Speaker: Dr. Joyce Slochower (New York)
Relational Psychoanalyst and Winnicott Scholar
Dr Joyce Slochower, internationally recognised psychoanalyst, will be hosting a stimulating one-day seminar designed for psychotherapists and health professionals. Dr Slochower will revisit Winnicott’s influential idea of holding, explore the complexities of resistance, and address the subtle tensions between ethics and self-interest in clinical practice. With space for dialogue and reflection throughout the day, participants will leave with deeper insight and practical ways of thinking about relational dynamics in their work.
One-Day Seminar, Thursday February 19: Therapy and the Unspoken
Please arrive by 8:45 for a 9 am start
9:00 – 9:15 am: Welcome
9:15 -10:45 am: Session one – HOLDING: ITS USE, OVERUSE AND MISUSE. The Winnicottian notion of “holding” has entered the common psychotherapy lexicon. Dr Slochower speaks to the uses, misuses, and misunderstandings of the concept.
10:45 – 11:15 am: Morning tea
11:15 – 12:45 pm: Session two – RESISTANCE: “There’s nothing wrong with what I am doing/saying. You’re resistant/defensive/impossible.” Dr Slochower takes us through the understandings of resistance from an interpersonal and an analysts lens.
12:45 am – 1:45 pm
LUNCH – Eateries nearby
2:00 – 3:30 pm Session three – SECRET MISDEMEANOURS: In this challenging topic, Dr Slochower will examine the dynamics underlying collisions between professional ethics and self-interest. The wondering: “What’s going on here?” will be explored through the lens of relational dynamics
3:30 – 4:00 pm: Afternoon tea
4:00 – 5:00 pm: Session four – DISCUSSION WITH DR SLOCHOWER. Chaired by Gabriela Mercado, Recent Past President APANZ
Dr Joyce Slochower's Biography
Joyce Slochower, Ph.D., ABPP, is Professor Emerita of Psychology at Hunter College and the Graduate Center, CUNY. She serves as faculty and supervisor at the NYU Postdoctoral Program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis, the Steven Mitchell Center, the National Training Program of the National Institute for the Psychotherapies (NIP), the Philadelphia Center for Relational Studies, and the Psychoanalytic Institute of Northern California (PINC).
Dr. Slochower is on the editorial boards of Psychoanalytic Dialogues, Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, Ricerca Psicoanalitica, and Psychoanalytic Perspectives. She is also a board member of the International Association for Relational Psychoanalysis and Psychotherapy (IARPP).
She has authored over 100 articles on psychoanalytic theory and technique. Her books include:
• Holding and Psychoanalysis: A Relational Perspective (2nd ed., Routledge, 2014)
• Psychoanalytic Collisions (2nd ed., Routledge, 2014)
• Psychoanalysis and the Unspoken (Routledge, 2023)
She is also co-editor, with Lew Aron and Sue Grand, of:
• De-idealizing Relational Theory: A Critique from Within
• Decentering Relational Theory: A Comparative Critique (Routledge, 2018)
Dr. Slochower maintains a private practice in New York City, where she sees individuals and couples and runs supervision and study groups.
Selected Publications
For a full list of publications, please contact the speaker or visit her professional profile.
Recent Works
• 2024
• Holding On and Letting Go: Discussion of Robert Grossmark’s Essay, Psychoanalytic Perspectives, 22(2), 125–132.
• Adoption: Encompassing Loss and Absence, Psychoanalytic Perspectives, 1–3.
• Ending, Not Quite Ending, and Not Ending at All, Psychoanalytic Quarterly (in press).
• Inside Out and Upside Down: Winnicott’s Fear of Breakdown, Psychoanalytic Dialogues, 34(5): 634–636.
• Psychoanalysis and the Unspoken, New York/London: Routledge.
• Factions Are Back, Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 72(4): 561–582.
• 2022–2023
• The Absent Witness: Mourning, Virtually, Psychoanalytic Perspectives, 19(3): 253–268.
• Sequels, Journal of the American Psychoanalytic Association, 70(5): 845–873.
• Against the Grain, in J. Salberg (Ed.), Psychoanalytic Credos: Personal and Professional Journeys of Psychoanalysts (Routledge).
• A Few Regrets, Psychoanalytic Dialogues, 31(2): 166–180.
• 2020
• On Behalf of the Child: Winnicott’s Work During the War Years, JAPA, 68(5): 969–977.
• Resist This, Psychoanalytic Dialogues, 30: 64–72.
• Don’t Tell Anyone, in C. Levin (Ed.), Sexual Boundary Trouble in Psychoanalysis (Routledge).
• 2018
• Co-editor of De-idealizing Relational Theory: A Critique from Within and Decentering Relational Theory: A Comparative Critique (Routledge).
• Going Too Far: Relational Heroines and Relational Excess, in De-idealizing Relational Theory (Routledge).
• D.W. Winnicott: Holding, Playing, and Moving Toward Mutuality, in Introduction to Contemporary Psychoanalysis (Routledge).
• Books
• Psychoanalysis and the Unspoken (2023, Routledge)
• Psychoanalytic Collisions (2nd ed., 2014, Routledge)
• Holding and Psychoanalysis: A Relational Perspective (2nd ed., 2014, Routledge)
Registration Options
Register for the one-day seminar, Thursday, 19th February 2026.
Recommended Accommodation
All APANZ and Waka Oranga conference attendees are offered a 15% discount.
Adina CityLife Wellington
300 Lambton Quay
14 Gilmer Terrace, if driving
Wellington 6011
Travelodge
Plimmer Towers
Level 4/6 Gilmer Terrace
Wellington Central, Wellington 6011
Contact and Location
Wharewaka – Wellington Waterfront
Taranaki Wharf,
2 Taranaki Street,
Waterfront,
Wellington 6011
(Adjoins Te Papa.)
www.wellingtonfunctions.co.nz
Cafes and bars within walking distance.
Contact Conference Committee
apanzconf26@gmail.com

